In one way or another, we all lack a certain amount of control over our lives. It might be that you have no control when it comes to spending money or eating food. It might be that you can’t control your emotions and allow your temper to flare out of control during certain stressful moments. Think about it for a few minutes, and you’ll likely find at least one area of your life where you do not have control.
By the same token, we are all masters of something. Maybe you’re a master at finance management, or you are flawless in your parenting techniques. I suppose this is like the yin and yang of each of our lives. We are highly successful in a few things, and totally out of control in other areas. How do we find balance? Not perfection, just balance? And how do you do that without losing your masterful grip on the areas you are successful in?
If you turn your attention to your finances, does the time you spend helping your kids with their schoolwork suffer? If you focus all your attention on working on your relationship, do you stop paying attention to what your eating because you’re so caught up in other things? If you’re doing fantastic things at your job, do any areas of your home life get lost in the shuffle? If each aspect of our lives is one part, or cog, of our daily life, how many should we be handling if we want our personal machine to run smoothly?
Maybe the reason that the ebb and flow of our lives is constantly out of balance, is because it’s just too much for any one person. Maybe that’s why it seems like everyday somebody completely flips out and goes crazy. Do you think that a farmer 70 years ago, would have completely lost control, flipped out, drove into town and shot up the general store full of people? No. I suppose I have no evidence to back up my theory, but I don’t think this was a common occurrence.
Not only do we have too much in our own personal lives (work, kids, finance problems, keeping up with the Jones’, etc.), but we also have to find time to concern ourselves with the government, the world, our retirement, our health insurance… oh, and don’t forget the daily unnerving commute in which we save our own lives from crazy drivers at least three times- each way.
Finding a way to simplify your life (eliminate all of the unnecessary cogs in your life) is the key to ending this craziness. If you are “trapped” by your lifestyle, figure out how to purge your life of some of the stuff that keeps you stuck. Take that wiggle room, and turn it into a less stressful job, a part-time job, or time to do something meaningful. Improve your time management skills so that finances are done for 30 minutes each week on Sunday, or that you will get yourself up to speed on the stock market and your retirement at a designated time each week or each month. Let go of some of the things that are taking up to much of your time. Are you a member of a club or organization that was once very fulfilling, but now feels like a chore? Walk away. Are you living in a house and you hate that you have to spend time every weekend maintaining the yard? Get a townhouse. Free up your life!
The other part of this is to simply let go. There are some parts of your machine that are there to stay. You can’t do anything about the crazies on the road in the morning, but you can make yourself the best coffee ever, put in some happy music and just accept that this is the way it is. You can’t do anything immediate to resolve the country’s financial dilemma’s, but you can commit to do what you can to stay current on events, and then let the rest of it go.
We all have to keep the cogs of our lives in working order. I just think sometimes we accumulate so many that we can’t keep them all going simultaneously and in good working condition. If that’s the case, its time to downsize the machine of your life. Change that brings your towards a simpler lifestyle is worth working for.

I can’t help thinking the last few months about how our country, and the world, got to this place. Here we are, the economy of the world teetering on the brink of total failure, and no one seems to be reflecting on why we’re here; only how we can get out of it. Isn’t that the first basic rule though, problem solving? Don’t you have to understand how the problem came to be before you can solve it appropriately? Yes, banks gave out loans to people they shouldn’t have, and yes, credit card companies and the like we’re allowed to do what they wanted because regulation was lacking. But is that REALLY the problem? I don’t think so. I think it’s the symptom of a bigger problem. It’s a symptom of something that the companies of the world have lost. Integrity. Morals. Compassion. I mean, let’s face it. This whole economic “disaster” is really a simple function of greed. Somewhere along the way, these companies stopped thinking like individual human beings and started thinking as a machine. Money. How can we get more of it? What can we do to increase our bottom line? Who cares about what the costs are to others, it only matters what we stand to gain.


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