Written by Valentine’s Day is tricky. It’s not A trick, but it is tricky. Do you get something, or don’t you? If you do, will it be taken the wrong way? If you don’t, will he/she be offended or hurt? I think that a lot of that depends on the status of your relationship, but generally speaking there are a few things that should never be given, no matter what.
- Anything that you know you like more than him/her. So, don’t buy your girlfriend an HDTV if you’re the one who watches it.
- Things that insinuate sex. Its no fun to realize that the gift you got is less about you and more about a certain activity. Unless of course you’re a guy, and then its probably okay.
- A house utility. I don’t care if he’s been talking about a new lawn mower all year, or if she bitches about the vacuum cleaner every week, don’t do it.
- A box of chocolates. You might as well just say, “I didn’t really put any thought into you this year honey. Love you!”
- Any high ticket items. That is just silly. Say I love you for real, instead of with your paycheck for the next 3 years.
- A pet. Nothing says I love you like a lifetime responsibility of vet visits, poop, and obedience school.
- Singing telegram. No one really wants to be embarrassed at work. Really.
- Perfume or cologne. This seems like a nice idea, but no one wants to feel obligated to where some expensive stuff that they think smells like an old lady in an elevator.
- Exercise equipment. This one I think needs no explanation.
- A card with a promise for something later. Again, this seems like a great idea, but you better actually BUY the thing for later (e.g. a gift certificate for a hotel stay on the beach). If you promise it for later, and there’s no “proof”, it’ll end up to be one of those things that never happened. The expectation of something only to have it not happen is almost worse than getting nothing at all.
So, I hope all of you out there with significant other have a good Valentine’s Day. To all of you who don’t, after reading this list, you can revel in how uncomplicated your life is. 
Platonic relationships with the opposite sex can be incredibly fulfilling and rewarding. Some of my best friends have been men. Many people debate the idea that a man and a woman can have a true friendship; with nothing else in the mix. I’ve learned now that while I still think it’s possible, it really depends on the two people involved. I have experienced both success and failure.
I often glance at the girly magazines at the grocery store while I’m waiting to check out. Nearly one each month boasts an article on how to be a better lover, how to turn your guy on, or how to be sexier. I don’t claim to know what all of them suggest, but I did read one that gave tips on how to turn your man on in bed. I have better advice for you, and it’s pretty simple and direct. Confidence. Confidence and self esteem are the keys to being the best lover you can be.
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